The internet has found a new way to turn romance into a ranking. It’s worth asking whether anyone is winning. Somewhere between the curated dating profile and the viral thread about romantic “leagues”, dating has picked up a scoreboard. The latest entry is “Shrekking”: deliberately choosing a partner seen as less conventionally attractive, in the hope of being adored a little more and treated a little better. It’s a tidy idea, which is probably why it spreads. It’s also a str